Jump to me. Every morning, I get on the scale. One morning, the number was ten less than the day before. I was elated. Not just for that moment, but for the rest of the day. I thought I was amazing. It turns out that our scale was broken, and I re-gained those 10 pounds a few days later. That day was horrible. I felt ugly, my clothes didn't fit right, and I avoided every mirror in the house. And for that reason, I want to throw away my scale. I don't want my image of myself to be directed by the number I see on the scale. I want to get up in the morning, and say, "Now presenting...the Amazing Girl!" I want to really believe it, too, just like Noel and Juliet believe it. The thing is...they don't just believe it about them, they believe it about me.
I read somewhere that a daughter looks at her mother as the most beautiful woman she knows. The mom is essentially the queen in this little girl's world. And when that beautiful woman says she is fat or ugly, it wreaks havoc on that little girl's image of herself. That little girl eventually becomes a teenager, and when the same mother tells that girl that she looks beautiful, she doesn't believe her. How can she be beautiful if the number on the scale is too big? And she feels that her value is intrinsically attached to a number on the scale, just like her mom does. I don't want my girls to go through that, so I'm trying to change now so that I see myself as beautiful, and so that they never doubt their own beauty.
So, guess what? I'm trying something new. I get out of bed in the morning, and have a little chat with myself in front of the mirror. I stand and tell myself that I am strong and beautiful--and that the tummy which is more round--is also the same tummy that held three little babies. And those legs that don't necessarily fit in skinny jeans are the same legs that chase the kids up the stairs in a game of tag. They are strong and useful, and dare I say it...beautiful? And before I walk away, I look straight in the mirror and say, "Now presenting...the Amazing Girl!" Granted, I feel a little silly. But feeling silly makes me smile, and I start laughing, and I remember that I'm kind of a funny person. Mind you, I'm no Lucille Ball, but it's much better to start my day thinking "I'm a funny person" instead of "I'm no good because the scale says that I weigh xxx pounds." And because I'm a funny person, I end up playing circus events with the kids at lunch, throwing grapes into my mouth, or doing Animal-Yoga with my kids, or even pretending to be the cat in their play (still with no plot). I don't sit around, berating myself for how I look or what size I am. Instead, I am funny and helpful, engaged in my own life. I become that Amazing Girl.
Here's the catch: I know that number on the scale needs to go down so that I can be healthier. I'm eating brown rice and cauliflower and spinach to be healthier, and I am succeeding on that front. But none of that will matter if I don't first see myself as a strong, beautiful woman today. I can make sure that I'm checking in with myself for a dose of image-reality, and not letting a number dictate how I feel about my worth. And for that reason, when tomorrow morning comes, I won't get on the scale. I'll stand in front of the mirror and say, "Now Presenting...the Amazing Girl!" The cool thing? I'm starting to believe, too.