Lessons from the Blog

I've learned so much writing the work-at-home blog post. I think this is what I want to do: write about topics that will help me learn and grow. I loved writing this blog because I don't have all the answers - so I was genuinely interested in putting together the google form, poring over the data, and having some follow-up phone interviews. It wasn't just work - it was fun. 

Here are some of the key takeaways:

1. A good pattern for me is to focus on one type of writing / day. With practice, maybe I can increase it to two / day. This would look like: website copy (Monday and Tuesday), Email - Client Acquisition (Wednesday and Thursday), Parenting Book (Friday). It is the same stuff getting done, just focused each day. For my brain, that's such a help. I did this on Friday - ONLY working on the blog. I was really happy with the day, my focus, and the end product!

2. I still can't figure out the morning after the kids are gone, even if I work out and get ready before they go!! Because of this, I'm going to work on listening to a podcast that first hour and doing some sort of home chore like laundry or dinner prep. Maybe 1 chore / day to keep the house going and get my brain ready. Everyone says that their brain is super sharp first thing in the morning, but I feel like it takes me a while to wake up and have my brain alert. I used to just jump into work, but with age, it's been harder.

3. I like writing on the couch. Or right now, I'm sitting on the bed. I like the door closed. And I definitely should put the writing-heavy tasks in the hours when the kids are at school, because it's impossible for me to focus if they're home. I can do other stuff when they are home - even make appointments (oh, I hate that chore!). Anyway, the common thread is that I need to have an area where it is quiet and I'm not with anyone. I learned that about half the moms are like me. The other half are okay with someone being in the room. And during the week I came to realize - that's great for them. It doesn't work for me - and that's okay. I'm going to do what works for me.

4. Youtube and Facebook are complete distractions. And opening up new browsers. so, I need to have a few open, and then just stick to those. 

5. I'm excited for another week of work. I feel a lot better about where I'm headed, and my possibilities. I'm also working on getting my paperwork completed to be a substitute. That's exciting. Having less time seems like a bad thing, but it could be good to helping me focus my hours more. Sometimes less is more.

That's it! I just feel grateful that the blog helped me learn things, lean into my own strengths and patterns, and find ways from others that I can implement. It's going to be a GREAT week!

The Work-At-Home Blog Post (ideas and outline)

As I mentioned in an earlier post, I am working on a blog post about stay-at-home moms, hoping to use it for a portfolio piece as well as submitting to get published. I picked a topic I struggle with, so that it would be interesting to write AND would help me figure out the #1 question I currently have: how in the heck do I possibly figure out the work hours of working at home, without any sort of structure from anyone? 

I sent out a survey, and the responses were fascinating. It does prove to me that others may not struggle as much with transitions or focusing as I do. I'm still unsure if this is something I can just learn, or if there really is a mental thing happening. My friend Tori has mentioned that I exhibit some signs of ADHD, and MK as well. I don't know though. I know I need to get in to see a Counselor, because if it could help me figure out how to focus, that would be amazing. I do know that I do much better with a schedule and structure. I've known that for a very long time.

Once I'm started, I'm amazing. I just don't know how to sit down and start in the morning. I'll tell you what doesn't work - sitting on the couch in the front room (first thing anyway). If I end up there later in the day, that's fine. Also, having my phone with me. Seriously - it's the worst thing to give to someone like me that has a hard time focusing. I think this is why I like paper and pen so much - instead of the computer. It doesn't have distractions. I don't open a page, click on some random link I hadn't thought about 5 seconds before, and then get sucked into 5 more articles (none of which are things I need, but all of them are suddenly imperative to me). I'm a sucker for that sort of click-bait. 

Anyway, I'm going to work on the work-at-home outline today. As in now. Then web copy, then sending out a couple emails. Whew! A fun day ahead!

Monday Morning

 For any day, I'm doing pretty good. 

For a Monday, I'm doing amazing.

Transitioning from the weekend is a bit rough for me, so the fact that I'm on my laptop typing by 10:29 is amazing. I have a list, and I'm staying focused.

I just want to write for a minute about how to stay focused. I realized this was a big question / problem for me, so I decided to write a piece on it. Not because I'm an expert, but because I'm obviously not. I made up a form and shared it on the course platform, linkedin, and facebook. I've gotten enough responses (17) to at least have some good quotes and see some patterns. I'd love to see more - but unsure how to do that. Anyway, most of the responses followed the same pattern: having an office where you can shut the door and have a separation from the family responsibilities. A lot mentioned earbuds to get rid of distracting noise (this is me - I seriously respond to any noise - it's so hard for me). And then there was one outlier - a lady who works at her kitchen table with her kids being home. With them working at the table. She even said that she has an uncanny ability to block out noice. She sometimes gets in trouble for this in relationships, because she can block out whole conversations. But in working from home, it's something of a superpower.

The other thing that's come up in a few is a conversation that has happened with kids of parents that work from home - going over expectations and boundaries. The kids are well aware that the parent is working, and so don't disturb them. I think this is what is missing if I'm going to be working at all when the kids are at home, and definitely for the summer. We need to talk about what that will look like with me working, and how they should arrange their time. Which brings me to...

I can't do it all. I can't hit a mark of getting work done and be at their beck and call to help them. It's just not possible. When I'm on "work" - I need to work, and give that my focus. When the tasks for the job are done, I can switch to "mom" mode, and jump from task to task (b/c that actually works for the house - jumping from laundry, to meal planning to helping Chaim practice guitar and back to laundry and over to a few more tasks for the day). 

OR...and this is where I'm not quite to...because I still need to just work on hitting close to 25 hours / week of focused copywriting...but it makes me wonder if I've been approaching mom as a scattered job, when really it should be a focused job. That might be a game changer. I mean - couldn't every job be super scattered if we allow it to? Is being a mom scattered by definition - or is it because I have a hard time focusing that it seems all over the place? I think once I've completed the stay-at-home writing piece and worked on that, it might be time to evaluate my "out-of-work" hours and routine. 

Which means - I have room to improve. All. Over. The. Place. Like - everywhere. 

Closing out another Week

I've heard somewhere a joke about the workweek getting scrunchec - that Monday is coming off the weekend, Tuesday is getting started, Wednesday and Thursday you work, and Friday is getting ready to play again. 

Sadly, I think this is true for me. I've noticed the past few months just how difficult transitions are for me. Transitioning from kids going to school in the morning to getting to work. Transitioning from a weekend back to the workweek. Small and big transitions throw me for a loop. I seem to have very little focus or ability to jump back in to work.

I'm taking Chaim skiing this afternoon, leaving our house at 2:00. That's more than enough time to get in FIVE hours of work. Which is why it's 11 a.m., and I've accomplished almost nothing. I got sidetracked by a call about a form for school - and that was at 9:30 a.m. I could have put it on the list for tomorrow, but I just didn't consider that. I'm so easily sidetracked to what asks for my time presently.

This is why I thought I would write a blog about work patterns of work-at-home moms. It's a work sample and it's a help for me to figure out what works for others! I feel stymied by what to actually do...and seem to lack any sort of internal discipline at present.

With that, I think that'll be my first task of the day - sorting through that data, following up with those that shared their info, and outlining the blog. It actually sounds fun - and I'm going to work at writing random thoughts on a random dayplanner page - to complete after!

You've got this Brooke! 

Disarming with Humor

Juliet is quite clever.

She's good at reading situations and people. She's good at reading me.

One particularly bad morning when all the things go wrong — no breakfast, running out of shampoo in the shower, and having to scramble to find somewhat-clean socks in the dirty hamper — we loaded up in the car running late and drove to school. When I asked if she had a required school form with her, she played her cards right.

She fessed up to it, and then before I could say anything, launched into her own gag (is that the right word). "Kids these days - they don't remember anything! You ask them to pack their bag the night before, and they put it off. Then they wake up late, which makes the parent late..it's so infuriating!" 

She paused for a second - giving me time to insert anything.

It was so disarming. I laughed. I didn't even think - it was my natural reaction without a thought.

When I dropped her off at school, it felt good. I felt good.

She's clever enough to pull this off. And nice enough to not rub it in my face. 

Yup - I hit "send"!

I just submitted my 2nd piece to LDS Living. This one feels like a bigger thing to submit. It's longer, but it just feels a bit bigger - probably because the reading pool is bigger than the BYU Alumni magazine. Anyway, I hit "send". It felt scary to do, and I did it. It's my second piece I've submitted it. 

I'm really proud of myself. I'm writing and going forward. The next piece I'm going to work on is for a different sort of publication - instead of gospel-related, it's for an educational company. I think it will be a good challenge, and push me to expand what I'm writing about.

I'm also continuing with the book idea I had with Juliet. I have an intro and the first section started. It's a lot of fun to write and work on. I think I could probably start sending out queries to publishing companies while I'm working on it. This is totally new to me, but I have to start somewhere! I'm going to research a bit how to send out a "pitch". That's exciting!

Well, it's Wednesday - so my goal is to work on the education piece for the next week and submit between next Wednesday and Friday. 

and...while doing that to start sending out some copywriting things to get some clients. The video yesterday was helpful to getting my motivation going again!

That's it for today - now I've gotta get to work!

2nd piece to submit

 I've been working on a longer piece to submit to a different online magazine. They ask for pieces from 600 - 2200 words (quite a range). I pushed myself to write a longer piece, and then trimmed it down a bit to come in at about 1500 words. I had my sisters read it, then my mom and dad, then my friend Kim. 

Kim is an exceptional writer. She was probably the best writer in our high school, and she's continued since then. We met up on Wednesday for a hike and I was so excited to talk to her about writing. For years she's been gently asking if I was writing, and I never was. How in the world was I going to compete with the real writers? I didn't have anything to offer. But somehow in the past year, I've re-gained some hope in my own abilities, as well as my ability to grow and learn. I can keep working at writing and improve. I can work at writing. 

She also edited my essay over the weekend, and she's been very supportive. She had great feedback, and I've used it to make a better essay. I'm not sure if it will be published, but I'm really proud of it now. It's what I wanted to say. And I'm learning how to write better with it.

As soon as Scott gives it a read, I'll submit it. Hopefully tonight or tomorrow. 

I'm going to start working on another piece as well. Once one is in, it's important to keep moving forward. I also am using the guideline from copywriting and getting clients to hearing back about writing essays for magazines - if I have time to be worried about a piece getting published, I'm not sending out enough queries. I actually haven't thought too much about the BYU magazine post to be worried about it being published, because I was working hard on the 2nd piece (lessons while teaching C. to ski).

So, instead of worrying about either piece getting published, I'll move on to the next piece and try to finish it in the next week and submit it as well.

While copywriting too - and getting clients that way. I really don't have time to worry - there's so much to learn and do! I'm going to look at all of this as a gift and blessing, which helps me be excited with the learning. If I just focus on income, it feels like drudgery. If I focus on how lucky I am to have time to write and learn a new career, I feel incredibly lucky. 

Lucky me. :-)

With that, I'll head off to start on another piece.